tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722796384752588451.post2073629845303566543..comments2016-04-17T14:16:37.530-04:00Comments on Daughter Left Behind: Dont drink the adoption kool aidDaughter Left Behindhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12642430160367513433noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722796384752588451.post-21106832234787079522012-12-23T04:51:00.215-05:002012-12-23T04:51:00.215-05:00Exactly. I think I just didn't want to believe...Exactly. I think I just didn't want to believe it was true, because that would have meant taking the terrifying steps towards parenthood as a broke, single mother...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722796384752588451.post-65882877439813697842012-12-20T10:05:17.529-05:002012-12-20T10:05:17.529-05:00It makes me sad because I know things come out as ...It makes me sad because I know things come out as "angry and bitter" but really it is the truth for so many of us. Unfortunately for those who share this reality find this truth when it is too late. Daughter Left Behindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12642430160367513433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722796384752588451.post-87682380703939334282012-12-20T06:49:01.131-05:002012-12-20T06:49:01.131-05:00Wish I had met you earlier! I came across some bmo...Wish I had met you earlier! I came across some bmom stories when I was pregnant but thought they were just by angry bmoms who had terrible adoption experiences. Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11435897845906505919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722796384752588451.post-44735055936708323682012-12-20T00:52:25.675-05:002012-12-20T00:52:25.675-05:00I had an incredibly open adoption and a great rela...I had an incredibly open adoption and a great relationship with her parents. You are right that even though I had that, the pain and trauma wasn't diminished.Daughter Left Behindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12642430160367513433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722796384752588451.post-68603208169045117082012-12-20T00:49:41.649-05:002012-12-20T00:49:41.649-05:00Thank you. It sounds like you are one of the lucky...Thank you. It sounds like you are one of the lucky ones. <br /><br />Daughter Left Behindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12642430160367513433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722796384752588451.post-66419259681383786172012-12-20T00:22:10.016-05:002012-12-20T00:22:10.016-05:00As a fellow birthmom I agree with some of what you...As a fellow birthmom I agree with some of what you say. I know that there are those who feel as you do. However, you seem to generalize that all women feel this. I do not.<br /><br />I made the decision to place my daughter before I even visited the adoption agency. I was already a single mom and placed my second child. As a mom, I knew that I could provide for my son the best I could; but, I knew that to keep her would have been taking from my sons mouth to feed her and BOTH of my children would have suffered. I was already a Mom, and a good one at that. They NEVER made me feel like I wasn't. I placed my girl knowing that I was doing the best for her. This has come back to me 10 fold since we reunited 7 years ago. She has been a huge part of my life and when I was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer, her WHOLE family was with me during this fight I am in. <br /><br />I am truly sorry for the way you feel. Not all of us feel this way.With my love.. https://www.blogger.com/profile/16638408301609451400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2722796384752588451.post-55181911478174411462012-12-19T23:56:54.079-05:002012-12-19T23:56:54.079-05:00I completely relate. Even in the most "positi...I completely relate. Even in the most "positive" adoption experience (good aparents who uphold their end of the open adoption agreement, fairly frequent contact with "adopted away" child, whatever else a "positive" experience would include) nothing, NOTHING erases the feelings of betrayal and horrific loss associated with severing ties with your flesh and blood. 27 years later and I still haven't recovered. I suppose I will live with it forever.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com